There is always something to write about around relationships and disability.
Anyone with a brain impairment means they are disabled, however small. It stands to reason therefore, that my life would turn out differently, when I eventually found out. I am tied to a brain injury that has led to my impairment.
If I had have know I had cerebral palsy as a child it would have meant that I could have talked about my symptoms with those who needed to know, once I started forming relationships. With any relationship, it’s important to start off level pegging and on the right footing.
For anyone finding out about a disability late, means the person before the diagnosis won’t be the same person after. We grow, we mature and as a result we begin to see ourselves and our lives differently. Knowing means I have become less frustrated, less agitated, more calm; knowing can change the way others see us too.
Everyone should work and grow together, it shouldn’t matter the start point. But for those of us who deal with a disability our priorities and challenges will always be different. Dealing with a disability can be difficult, particularly as we have different challenges to meet, sometimes we may need that support.
Dealing with a disability also has its ups and downs. Even more frustrating for me when there was little to no understanding of what my challenges were. Although the life I’ve had isn’t the one I would have wanted, I still have challenges that present around my ‘SPD’ but at least now I know more about the disorder.
Even with all the things I’ve had to deal with, I still choose to see my life positively. A different kind of knowing with a different life around my disability has brought about a different thought process from me. We must try to have a positive disposition, particularly as dealing with a disability can unbalance the equation in any relationship and often does.
Whether a disability is mild or moderate is immaterial. Everyone involved needs to have a positive perception on disability, around what that person deals with and run with it for those relationships to work.