Resentment comes from feeling we’ve been treated unfairly, and when we find it hard to forgive those who have wronged us.
Holding on to negative experiences, means we will begin to harbour feelings of resentment. The more we hold on to those negative feelings, and the more we close ranks against some of our feelings, the more those feelings will escalate into bigger, more intense feelings of resentment.
But holding on to resentment only serves to prevent us from seeing our life in a healthy and balanced way. Resentment fuels anger that, if left, can turn into abusive and self-destructive behaviour.
Where resentment is concerned, we tend to push those feelings away without thinking about or dealing with them; perhaps it’s because we’re not happy to confront the other person.
Perhaps we’re also worried that saying something will jeopardise the relationship and we’re not keen to rock the boat. But perhaps if that’s we’re worried about, the relationship has already hit rocky waters.
And if that is the case, then perhaps it’s time to re-assess.