Revisiting old issues

We’d be different people than we are today if we’d had the opportunity to do and experience the things others have been lucky enough to experience.

If that isn’t the case, to hold on to romantic notions of imagining how our lives could have been, the whole exercise will become futile and upsetting. When I look back on my father’s life, with his own personal battle on how little he thought he had achieved, I am determined for that not to happen to me.

It’s easy to look back for all of us and imagine what could have been, but it takes strength of character for us to move on, without feeling bitter on how things should have turned out. I’m certainly not happy about certain areas of my life, but I choose to look forward instead, so that I accomplish all that I can for today.

I believe we must focus and live for today, one day at a time, so that we put all our energies into making today the best that we can. When we’re too focused on looking back, revisiting and thinking about some of the old issues, not only will we continue to stay embroiled in our own personal battle, visiting emotions we thought we’d cleared.

But I believe we will also emotionally fail to change anything from our past, in our present and in our future. How is that possible being stuck in the past?

26 Sep, 2014

6 thoughts on “Revisiting old issues

  1. I agree with you. We can’t look back and expect to move on into the future.

    We have to think positive and live for today, forget about the past because if things were different in our past things would be different in our present and future.

    I know if I had done things different in my past, I wouldn’t be happy today. We can’t change the past so why worry about it.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I agree we must at least try to forget about what’s happened in our past, but in order to do that we must deal with any outstanding issues. Generally, the idea is that when we look back we let go, so that we don’t bring our past issues into our present and future life.

      The majority of us will unconsciously end up visiting our past because we have failed to deal with our many issues.

  2. I think revisiting issues is only worthwhile if the opportunity is taken to address those issues. In that way, it is a positive exercise that empowers and enables us to move on.

    1. I agree with you and also think revisiting issues are worthwhile if the opportunity is taken to address those issues, particularly if it means us not having to address those issues at a later date.

      When we’ve dealt with our issues we can move on without going back to those thoughts and feelings of how we could have done things differently. From my own experience, unresolved issues will always continue to resurface until we address them.

  3. Revisiting issues from the past just makes us bitter. There is nothing we can do to change the past, so why worry about it? We need to focus on the present day.

    1. Thanks Maria. You’re right and I agree with you. There is no point to worrying about what we cannot change in our past.

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