Children are lucky if they can look back on their formative years and embrace memories of a happy childhood with positive role models in their lives. How many of us can say that we had the most amazing role models growing up?
A generation can make a big difference in terms of values, as it can to parents making good role models. But values can also get watered down through new generations, through society, through outside influences and sadly not always for the better.
But whether parents are good role models or not, what we learn from them stays firmly etched in our psyche. If we’re lucky enough to have two parents, both parents will contribute to the relationship, but not necessarily together and that can send out mixed messages.
Teachers will also go on to influence children too. Grandparents will contribute and influence their grandchildren, anyone who we hope have compassion and a caring nature, but of course there will always be those who don’t make good role models. Some families and institutions don’t always make the best role models.
But when it comes to parenting we get one shot at making a difference in our children’s lives. Unfortunately, we will never know until they’re through the other end, whether we’ve done a good job or not.