Rules of the road/2

Some more of my rules of the road: Always clear the air so that disagreements don’t stay disagreements for long. Accept that you’re wrong when you are wrong. Try not to finish a conversation on a bad note and if you can’t agree, try to look for a compromise. Finally, open your mind to what’s being said, stop reading between the lines unless you have to and avoid hearing what you want, rather than what you need to hear.


6 May, 2013

8 thoughts on “Rules of the road/2

  1. Great rules to follow. I do try to do all of these. My conscience would bother me no end if I left things on a bad note and I would have to go back and apoligise even if I’m right. I’ve always been this way.

    I can remember a particular time in high school. I did get with this other girl’s boyfriend but I believe looking back on it, it was date rape. He got me high some how and things happened that I would never do. She found out and an argument pursued between us.

    I had been friends with this girl for a while so I felt very guilty about the argument and I apoligised for the argument. I didn’t want it to continue.

    I hated the thought of someone being mad at me. I didn’t apologise for the other because I really didn’t think it was my fault, but if she had continued to be upset with me I would have; just to make amends.

    1. Thanks Lisa for being so honest. I think we can all compromise or reach an understanding which wasn’t there before, as long as we all work on it.

      It obviously has to happen between all of those concerned. Unfortunately that doesn’t always happen, which is why we end up walking away or holding a grudge against someone. As a child it was different for me. I grew up in a family that just didn’t back down, so I didn’t either.

      Whether I’m wrong or right I follow these rules. As a parent I tend to mediate quite a lot.

  2. There is a difference between active listening and actually ascertaining what you are listening to.

    Often times reading between the lines will only give us a false reading of a situation. I have no problem correcting myself or apologizing if I don’t follow the rules of the road.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes there is a difference. Reading between the lines is a hard one and all depends on what you’re reading, well in my experience it does!

      Sometimes reading between the lines is helpful, particularly if we’re trying to ascertain what someone is telling us and they’re not explaining it very well. In that situation reading between the lines helps us with an explanation of the bigger picture.

      As you say though, it can also give us a false reading of a situation when we get the wrong end of the stick.

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