Saying sorry

I believe both children and adults find it difficult to accept they’re wrong that someone else is right, but how many of us will actually admit we’re wrong?

But the reality is that without us saying sorry, we’re shaping our future to be right without seeing ourselves as ever being wrong. Never being wrong or being able to back down and re-address a situation, means us always having to be right. It’s not right to admit we’re right, when we clearly know we’re wrong.

Sadly, not being able to back down means we may become self-righteous, unable to back down for fear of showing our vulnerable side. The reality is we’re creating a road of destruction. Apologising helps us overcome guilt from something we say that’s damaging or hurtful to someone else.

Also, we can never hope to build the foundations to any meaningful relationship without being able to back down when we’re wrong. But rather than back down and admit we’re wrong, we sometimes stubbornly hang on for as long as possible, in the hope that the other person will back down.

It’s important we apologise in a way that says we mean we’re sorry, so that the person we apologise to knows we’re being genuine. It’s important we take responsibility so that we accept blame, if we are to blame. When no apology is forthcoming, pain turns to bitterness, which then leads to resentment.

When we’re taught correctly, we will learn to compromise, not to argue and will learn how to build friendships. Sadly, unresolved arguments turn into resentments and resentments carry forward to other areas of our lives.

When we say sorry, we not only show maturity, but we will be seen in a better light. Being right all the time not only causes a void between people, but it’s tiring having to be right all the time.

18 Jan, 2011

4 thoughts on “Saying sorry

  1. Being accepting, admitting of faults and being apologetic are to some extent learned behaviors.

    Growing up I wasn’t around anybody who did those things, so it wasn’t until later that I realized that it was the appropriate action in certain contexts.

    I agree with you in that they show growth and maturity, because it is something you must come to learn and understand with time.

    1. You are completely right in what you say.

      Admitting faults and being apologetic are all learned behavior which stems from our parents instilling these values into us, as small children.

      I believe without it, it’s very hard for us to live our lives comfortably without repercussions. Thanks for posting.

  2. I always try to admit I’m sorry if I’m actually in the wrong.

    What gets me are people that don’t realise they are wrong and who don’t know they don’t know and stay mad with them cause they don’t accept responsibility.

    I agree with you by the way on all accounts.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I know from my own experiences, how difficult it is to have a relationship with someone who is unwilling to accept when they are wrong.

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