I believe both children and adults find it difficult to accept they’re wrong that someone else is right, but how many of us will actually admit we’re wrong?
But the reality is that without us saying sorry, we’re shaping our future to be right without seeing ourselves as ever being wrong. Never being wrong or being able to back down and re-address a situation, means us always having to be right. It’s not right to admit we’re right, when we clearly know we’re wrong.
Sadly, not being able to back down means we may become self-righteous, unable to back down for fear of showing our vulnerable side. The reality is we’re creating a road of destruction. Apologising helps us overcome guilt from something we say that’s damaging or hurtful to someone else.
Also, we can never hope to build the foundations to any meaningful relationship without being able to back down when we’re wrong. But rather than back down and admit we’re wrong, we sometimes stubbornly hang on for as long as possible, in the hope that the other person will back down.
It’s important we apologise in a way that says we mean we’re sorry, so that the person we apologise to knows we’re being genuine. It’s important we take responsibility so that we accept blame, if we are to blame. When no apology is forthcoming, pain turns to bitterness, which then leads to resentment.
When we’re taught correctly, we will learn to compromise, not to argue and will learn how to build friendships. Sadly, unresolved arguments turn into resentments and resentments carry forward to other areas of our lives.
When we say sorry, we not only show maturity, but we will be seen in a better light. Being right all the time not only causes a void between people, but it’s tiring having to be right all the time.