Saying sorry

I believe children and adults find it difficult to accept they’re wrong that someone else may be right, but how many of us will actually admit we’re wrong?

The reality is that without saying sorry, we’re shaping our future to be right without seeing ourselves as ever being wrong. Never being wrong or being able to back down and re-address a situation, means us always having to be right. Spiritually, it isn’t right to admit we’re right, when we clearly know we’re wrong.

Not being able to back down also means we may become self-righteous, unable to back down for fear of showing our vulnerable side. The reality is we’re creating a road of destruction. Apologising helps us overcome guilt from something we say that’s damaging, or hurtful to someone else. When we become adept at saying sorry, we will begin to heal.

But we can never hope to build the foundations to any meaningful relationship or life, without being able to back down when we’re wrong. It’s important we apologise in a way that says we genuinely mean we’re sorry, so that the person we apologise to knows we’re being genuine.

It’s important we take responsibility so that we accept blame, if we are to blame. When no apology is forthcoming, pain turns to bitterness, which leads to resentment. When we’re taught correctly, we learn to compromise, not to argue. Unresolved arguments also turn into resentments and resentments carry forward into other areas of our lives.

When we say sorry, we not only show maturity, but will be seen in a better light. Being right all the time not only causes a void between people, but I should think it’s tiring having to be right all the time.

18 Jan, 2011

4 thoughts on “Saying sorry

  1. Being accepting, admitting of faults and being apologetic are to some extent learned behaviors.

    Growing up I wasn’t around anybody who did those things, so it wasn’t until later that I realized that it was the appropriate action in certain contexts.

    I agree with you in that they show growth and maturity, because it is something you must come to learn and understand with time.

    1. You are completely right in what you say.

      Admitting faults and being apologetic are all learned behavior which stems from our parents instilling these values into us, as small children.

      I believe without it, it’s very hard for us to live our lives comfortably without repercussions. Thanks for posting.

  2. I always try to admit I’m sorry if I’m actually in the wrong.

    What gets me are people that don’t realise they are wrong and who don’t know they don’t know and stay mad with them cause they don’t accept responsibility.

    I agree with you by the way on all accounts.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I know from my own experiences, how difficult it is to have a relationship with someone who is unwilling to accept when they are wrong.

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