I believe children and adults find it difficult to accept they’re wrong that someone else may be right, but how many of us will actually admit we’re wrong?
The reality is that without saying sorry, we’re shaping our future to be right without seeing ourselves as ever being wrong. Never being wrong or being able to back down and re-address a situation, means us always having to be right. Spiritually, it isn’t right to admit we’re right, when we clearly know we’re wrong.
Not being able to back down also means we may become self-righteous, unable to back down for fear of showing our vulnerable side. The reality is we’re creating a road of destruction. Apologising helps us overcome guilt from something we say that’s damaging, or hurtful to someone else. When we become adept at saying sorry, we will begin to heal.
But we can never hope to build the foundations to any meaningful relationship or life, without being able to back down when we’re wrong. It’s important we apologise in a way that says we genuinely mean we’re sorry, so that the person we apologise to knows we’re being genuine.
It’s important we take responsibility so that we accept blame, if we are to blame. When no apology is forthcoming, pain turns to bitterness, which leads to resentment. When we’re taught correctly, we learn to compromise, not to argue. Unresolved arguments also turn into resentments and resentments carry forward into other areas of our lives.
When we say sorry, we not only show maturity, but will be seen in a better light. Being right all the time not only causes a void between people, but I should think it’s tiring having to be right all the time.