My mum once told me that we don’t go to school to learn how to be a parent. Although that isn’t an excuse, it’s a cop-out because it means that whatever we do, we’re not officially ‘responsible’.
Although we don’t go to school to learn how to deal with life, the most amazing childhood can’t give us a guarantee. Life has a knack of throwing things at us when we least expect it. When we’ve never had to cope or deal with our childhood in that way, it makes it even more difficult for us to learn how to deal with our issues as an adult.
‘Life can be a school of hard knocks.’ The education one gets from life is often used as a contrast to a formal education. People will use the school of hard knocks analogy to identify and justify their life, so they can explain the cards life has dealt them, without the formal education. It’s okay that we use the analogy, but we must also choose to do something about it.
Instead, we may justify our thoughts by convincing ourselves that our life was never going to be any different, but as we continue to justify our thoughts, we will never change the things we need to change.
We tend to use the analogy in response to others, when they ask about our formal education. We use it to justify our failings, whilst on a conscious level we continue to ignore things.