It’s fine when we’re level pegging. It’s fine when two people live the same lifestyle and achieve the same level of success.
It’s also fine when we go through the same experiences, for both parties to empathise for coming through the same experiences. We tend to respond differently when the other person becomes successful in his own right and we fail to acknowledge their achievements, because we’ve failed.
It seems to be the way the world works. We genuinely feel we can’t be happy for others when we think we’ve failed, but would be more than happy for that other person if we had also achieved success. Unfortunately, we never seem to think about and evaluate how long it takes a person to achieve success.
We seem to feel threatened by people’s success and in doing so, see them less as an equal. No matter how successful someone turns out to be, they still are, no matter how much we deny they are. In my own case I began to question where the responsibility lay for my lack of success.
Not only did it stop me from becoming jealous, it allowed me to evaluate my own life so that I rid myself of the guilt that didn’t belong to me and of the guilt that was clearly holding me back. Unfortunately, we tend to evaluate other people’s success through our own flaws.
We never seem to be happy for another person, unless we’re successful ourselves.