Seeing the need for change

My thoughts bring me on to a different path today, whereby I can see the bigger picture of my life and situations that I’ve had to cross in that life.

It also helps me pass judgment on what I need to do to bring calm back into my life. I know which situations I can change and which situations I want to change, but I also know that to change or walk away from a situation may bring with it more unease, not necessarily for me, but for others who aren’t accepting of my decision.

It not always easy to bring ourselves out of situations, so that we bring about peace. In an ideal world that would be great, but it’s not how life goes for everyone; but we must still make our lives work. If we speak out and things don’t work out, then it’s right to call time.

We’re less likely to live with regret if we say something to bring about change, but find that we can’t, but it also depends on the severity of the problem; like those who live with emotional and physical abuse.

Obviously in those situations, there is only one option and that is to move away, from a life of abuse. No one should have to put up with abuse. In other circumstances, living with regret on the things we don’t say, will always bring about guilt.

When we know that we’ve done as much as we can, then we can rest in the knowledge that there was nothing more we could do. There’s always a need for change if we live with continual stress. When that happens, it’s time to do something about it.


10 Apr, 2011

4 thoughts on “Seeing the need for change

  1. I agree with you. In my first marriage I lived through mental abuse and I left several times but always came back, until the last time when my child was threatened, I decided that was it. I had to be sneaky about it but I got out.

    Occasionally I regret it but not a lot because there is no telling where I’d be now if I’d stayed.

    My ex died several years later of suicide and I felt so guilty for a long time, but finally figured out that there was no reason for me to feel guilty. It wasn’t my fault.

    1. Lisa I totally agree with you it wasn’t your fault your ex committed suicide. Your ex would have gone on to do it regardless of whether you were still with him. Those are the circumstances where you have no choice, the decision needs to be made and quickly.

      I believe though, any change is important to our physical and emotional health.

  2. It is one thing to know you need to change something in life, it is another thing to make change happen. That is the hard part.

    I am in the process of doing that with my own life. I have a couple of things I want to change but with anything worth while I know it will take time and a lot of effort to do it.

    As long as a person feels like they are moving forward it will be okay.

    1. Yes you are right, making change happen is the hard part of anyone’s life. As long as not only does a person feel they are moving forward but moving forward, you are right it will be okay.

      It so hard to change a pattern of behavior that we have lived with for years, but I believe it can be done. Thank you for posting.

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