Unfortunately, when we’re not told we’re loved, or we’re not told that our parents are proud of us, we will spend a lifetime trying to seek their approval; that we’re worthy of their love and support.
We shouldn’t have to seek our parents’ approval. The fact that a parent can unconsciously make us feel these things is a good enough reason for us not to feel these things, or that we have to prove ourselves at all. When we learn to love ourselves we won’t have the need to seek anyone’s approval.
It’s not that our parents don’t always love us, because I believe somewhere in their psyche they do. The problem with parents is they don’t always know how to tell us they love us, or show us that they do.