Someone with self-righteous tendencies will display moral superiority, derived from their beliefs, affiliations or actions which they believe are of greater virtue than those of the average person.

As a consequence, they are intolerant of the opinions and behaviour of others. Their ‘holier than thou’ approach to their lives and towards others make it difficult for us to like or mediate with them.

But those who are self-righteous, will always have an attitude where they continually believe they are right, no matter what others say. It is not about being right or wrong, but about being open to life and opinions, so that we see what’s beyond our four walls and limitations. That will bring a better attitude.

We become self-righteous when we’re moralistic and intolerant of other people’s opinions. We become intolerant when others choose not to listen, instead of them being open to discuss our opinions and why our views may differ.

Being self-righteous will always have the effect of us imposing our will on others. When we’re in the habit of competing with others over our beliefs, not being able to relate to those with different view to our own, then we limit ourselves to the unlimited life, beyond our four walls.

Throughout our lives we have many conditions imposed on us, we also copy much of what we see. When we come across as smug, then others may think us self-righteous but that isn’t always the case: intuitively knowing that something isn’t true doesn’t make us self-righteous, but it does make us knowledgeable.

There is no reason for any of us to compete, or think we’re better than others. The truth is we’re not we’re all the same.

11 Jul, 2015

4 thoughts on “Self-righteous

  1. Self-righteousness is a way of making sure people don’t see you for who you really are and what you really don’t know. Knowing everything doesn’t drive my desires like it does for so many other people.

    I don’t think knowledgeable people are self righteous; it’s people who don’t know anything that know everything.

  2. I agree thanks Tim. You’re absolutely right. I particularly resonate with your last paragraph and believe there are two ways at looking at this.

    I believe knowledgeable people can be self-righteous, particularly in the way they conduct themselves; but generally speaking they’re knowledgeable enough not to be self-righteous. As you say it’s the people who don’t know anything, but know everything that are the most self-righteous.

    Not only are they self-righteous, but they can also be dangerous, particularly if they think they know everything, but they really know very little.

  3. People can certainly hide their lack of knowledge through a self-righteous, pompous attitude to others but I think people can be self-righteous, knowledgeable or not, if they are that way inclined.

    It is a very difficult trait to deal with and I usually don’t bother with people like that as I don’t feel the need to convince someone else they are wrong. That’s not up to me to do.

    1. Thanks, yes I have come across many people in the way you describe. Being self-righteous makes communication almost impossible.

      Do we really set out to convince people? I’m not sure we do because our conversations don’t start like that, but it would be nice for people to have an open-mind on what we say, so that we develop healthy communication.

      Dealing with self-righteous people just serves to incite conflict and that most of the people I have come across with these personality traits, seem oblivious to how they really are.

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