Parents tend to set the standards from a very early age. But one of the most important factors of any child’s upbringing is what that child is exposed to from childhood into adulthood, therefore it’s important we set the right standards.
Sadly, children are not only influenced by their parents, but by other family including their grandparents, aunts, uncles etc. It is those influences that will also have an impact, so it’s important their influences have the right impact.
Our early influences will influence every decision we go on to make in our adult years. It’s fine so long as all influences are uniform, what parents want for their children, but may cause friction if other people’s influences fall below what we want for our children.
We all have different values and standards and it is those different values and standards that become the conflict between families. Where parents often have to compete with extended family that isn’t right.
We attach importance to values or judge values as being important. Values give our life meaning. Other factors may include a child’s education, external influences and culture which all play its part. Values are the building blocks and form the basis of our decisions and how we live our lives. Our core values are the difference between right and wrong and good or bad.
Children will always have external influences, but those influences should not set the standard above the standards set out by the parents, otherwise it will only lead to family conflict.
Unfortunately, it is these outside influences that begin to interfere with the parents’ role and the parent having to compete with their child.