Parents tend to set the standards from a very early age. But one of the most important factors of any child’s upbringing is what that child is exposed to, from childhood into adulthood, therefore it is important that as parents we set the right standards.
Children are not only influenced by their parents, but by other family members including their grandparents, aunts and uncles etc. Those influences will also have an impact, so it’s important they also get the standards right.
Our early influences will affect every decision we go on to make in our adult years. It’s fine so long as all influences conform to what parents want for their children, but may cause friction if other people’s influences fall below those expectations.
We all have different values and standards, and it is those differences that create conflict between families. It isn’t right when parents have to compete with extended family.
Our values are what we attach importance to, and what give our life meaning. Other factors may include a child’s education, external influences and culture which all play their part. Values are the building blocks and basis of our decisions and how we live our lives. Our core values are the difference between right and wrong, good and bad.
Children will always have external influences, but those influences should not set a higher standard than what is set out by their parents, or it will lead to family conflict. Outside influences can interfere with the parents’ role, and result in the parent having to compete for their child.