Parents set the standards. So, one of the most important factors of a child’s upbringing, is what that child may be continually exposed to, from childhood into adulthood. Therefore as parents, it is important to set the right standards.
Children are not only influenced by their parents, but by other family members too including grandparents, aunts and uncles. As those influences can also have an impact, it is important they match the appropriate consistent standards.
The influences children have, will affect every decision they go on to make in their adult years. It’s fine, so long as their influences are what their parents want for their children and are positive, but not all influences are the same and those influences may cause friction if they fall below the exacting standards.
Our values are what we may attach importance to, and what gives our life meaning. Other factors may include a child’s education, external influences and culture which can all play their part. Values are the building blocks and form the basis of our decisions and how we may live our lives. Our core values are the difference between right and wrong and good and bad.
Children will always have external influences, but if those influences set a higher standard than what may be set out by their parents, it can lead to family conflict. Outside influences can interfere with the parents’ role, and may in those circumstances, result in the parent having to compete for their child. Parental values are important to every child. They form the foundations for success in later years.
When it came to my mum, although she didn’t talk much about her values, she did expect us to have manners and to think about and put others first. Through my spiritual beliefs, I innately knew what to do.
Away from my anger, I was a caring and thoughtful child. I remember my younger sister acquiring a money-box and I went and got my pennies from my money-box, so she would have money to put in hers. She remembers that.
I believe our values and how we treat others are the catalyst for a more peaceful and harmonious life, couple that with empathy and tolerance and we may become better people.