Parents set the standards from a very early age. One of the most important factors of a child’s upbringing is what that child is continually exposed to, from childhood into adulthood, therefore as parents, it is important we set the right standards.
Children are not only influenced by their parents, but by other family members too including grandparents, aunts and uncles etc. As those influences will also have an impact, it’s important they also get the appropriate matching and consistent standards right.
The influences children have, will affect every decision they go on to make in their adult years. It’s fine, so long as all their children’s influences conform to what their parents want for their children, but may cause friction if other people’s influences fall below those expectations.
Our values are what we attach importance to, and what give our life meaning. Other factors may include a child’s education, external influences and culture which all play their part. Values are the building blocks and form the basis of our decisions and how we live our lives. Our core values are the difference between right and wrong and good and bad.
Children will always have external influences, but those influences should not set a higher standard than what is set out by their parents, or it will lead to family conflict. Outside influences can interfere with the parents’ role, and result in the parent having to compete for their child. Parental values are important to every child. They form the foundations for success in later years.
When it came to my mum, although she didn’t talk much about her values, she did expect us to have manners and to think about and put others first. Through my spiritual beliefs even as a child, I innately knew what to do.
Away from my anger, I was a caring and thoughtful child. I remember my younger sister acquiring a money-box and I went and got my pennies from my money-box, so she would have money to put in hers.
I do believe our values and how we treat others are the catalyst for a more peaceful and harmonious life: couple that with empathy and tolerance and we become better people.