It’s fascinating how when we spend too much time dwelling on the negatives, we miss out on other things.
It’s easy to dwell and natural to internalise, it’s something most or all of us will do at some point in our lives, but whereas some of us will dwell some of the time, others may dwell all the time, so that then becomes their primary objective and focus.
Unfortunately, not only will dwelling on the negatives affect us socially, but it is also harmful to our emotional health as well.
The following may help:
- Look for a distraction. My mum used to tell me to think of something happy like a forthcoming event, or if the negative thoughts came before bed, she would tell me to count sheep;
- We tend to ruminate less when we’re busy. When we occupy ourselves we almost forget to dwell;
- Perhaps you can begin to explore the reasoning behind your thoughts and why you’re dwelling. When we come to understand the reasoning, we’re more likely to rationale and less likely to dwell.
The strategies to changing any thought process are confidence and lifestyle, confidence so that we’re in control of the way we want things to be and lifestyle so we create more opportunities. The more sedentary we are, the more likely we are to dwell, because there’s nothing to keep our minds occupied. Mix with confident, like-minded individuals who will elevate you.
I know that when I began to work on my confidence and my lifestyle, I rid myself of the negative thought patterns and began to move forward, without thinking about dwelling on the negatives.