It doesn’t matter how many brothers or sisters we have, there will always be an element of rivalry, which unfortunately for most, lasts long after childhood.
Sibling happens where children feel they have to compete for the attention of their parents, particularly if they’re getting very little attention, or none at all. It also starts when additional siblings are introduced into the family and the family dynamics are changed for the first time.
An only child who likes having their parents’ attention may often feel threatened by the introduction of a new sibling. As the family grows, there is often a pecking order between the siblings, because attention is paid to the children that conform, which leaves the other siblings fighting for attention.
Children whose parents don’t recognise their abilities, who don’t encourage, support or give them the attention they need to thrive, will remain stuck in the same kind of relationships, as an adult. Unfortunately, we don’t always understand how family work and how we get to change those dynamics. We must perceive family differently and work together.
Sibling rivalry isn’t always down to the parents though. The nature of where we are in our lives, has its own impact. Siblings will look at their sisters or brothers’ success and draw comparisons with their own achievements, rather than drawing comparisons with themselves.
It’s a human failing, but drawing comparisons is something that society teaches and encourages and continues to encourage through competition.