Home should be a sanctuary, a place where once the door is closed we have peace with ourselves and each other. It’s easy to assume stress is all about work, but homes can also be a catalyst for stress.
Children will also deal with their own stress, but they may not always be able to express themselves or talk about what they feel. They may also not always feel they can talk to their parents or that their parents will understand what they go through, particularly during their teenage years; and as parents, we may not always feel our children understand the pressures we’re under.
As hard as it is being a child, it’s even more difficult being a parent with all the responsibilities that come with the role. Understanding each other’s needs can be difficult. When we’re stressed, others may see, but may not always be totally aware or understand why. When we’re stressed we tend to switch off to what’s going on around us.
We don’t always make an effort when we’re stressed. We may also perceive and interpret discussions wrongly because our mind’s elsewhere and we’re not listening. We may also take family for granted and make less of an effort. All of these things bring about added stress, but perhaps we must try to stand back and deal with our stress, think about what we say and how we say things, so as not to offend.
If we all thought about what we say, or how we say it, we wouldn’t come out with half the things we do. It’s important we listen, it’s also important we’re compassionate, tolerant, caring and throw some give and take in for good measure.
As a family, we must work together to limit the amount of stress that’s brought into the home. We must talk about things.