With yet another Celebrity passing through suicide recently, I felt compelled to write about it. For us to lose someone close is difficult, but to lose someone to suicide can leave us numb and in shock.
I have been touched by someone who committed suicide and although grief is a normal response to us losing someone important or close to us, when we lose someone through suicide it makes the bereavement process slightly more complex and complicated. When someone chooses to die through suicide, they have already convinced themselves, this life isn’t for them.
Although it’s not always easy to understand the concept of suicide, or why someone would choose to take their own life, mental illness makes it more understandable, but doesn’t always make it easy when it happens, because we’re never quite prepared for it. I think it’s the not being prepared that makes our loss even harder. The disbelief, the shock, the unanswered questions all add to our frustrations of dealing with a suicide.
But perhaps there’s different way to look at it. I believe there is. When someone chooses to end their life, it’s not a sudden decision. It’s also not a decision taken lightly. It’s usually a decision made out of desperation, a lack of their ability to cope, that nothing is working. It’s the end of the road, a form of desperation, a decision that’s taken months, then it just happens. I don’t believe it’s a selfish act, but a form of desperation. We mustn’t take it personally.
My spiritual beliefs allow me to see suicide differently. Viewed from spirit, death is not a death at all. Safe to say, anyone who commits suicide does not rot in hell, or ceases to exist, as we are led to believe. That simply isn’t true. I also don’t believe it’s helpful that we hear of use the terms, ‘killed himself’ and ‘or took her own life.’
Because it’s not an accurate description of what happens when someone takes their own life. That is what the world would have us believe and think, what culture and religions believe. More accurate terms would be ‘extinguished her physical body,’ or ‘ended his earth-experience,’ because that is what they both are.
I also don’t believe that anyone who ends their own life, rots in hell. There is no such place as hell. Fear-based religions teach us that suicide is a ticket to eternal hell, but evidence suggests that no such place exists. Even those who extinguish their physical body, can enter the light after passing. The spirit world doesn’t judge.
Evidence also suggests otherwise, through spiritual teachings, mediums and near-death experiences. That sadly, religious teachings don’t take account of the holistic factors that affect the brain after death and what happens to the soul on its passing.
The soul will and can never be extinguished and will always evolve, whether we commit suicide or not and which is why there should be no stigma attached to anyone’s decision to end their life.
My blog today is dedicated to all those affected by the loss of a loved one to suicide.