You learn that not all support makes good support. It’s only when you come to lose someone that you have time to reflect where you were with the support you had. It goes without saying that support needs to work and be right if we are to function comfortably in our lives.
We need people around us who will listen, who don’t constantly stand in judgment, or challenge us. We need people who will let us talk openly about what we deal with, without ignoring our comments and coming back in on what they deal with instead, like they’ve not heard.
If the support you have isn’t working, you must look at changing your support. You should always try to work on the support you have so that what you have works for you. We should also give support back where we can. Support should be a two-way street. Ideally, we must all work together and support each other.