From my own experiences, relationships seem even more difficult when families pull in different directions. We pull in different directions when we work independently of each other, when we’re non-committed and non-supportive.
The following suggestions may be useful:
- Try to create balance and harmony;
- Allow family members to make their own decisions;
- Be happy with their decisions even if you don’t agree;
- Always try to work together to achieve a satisfactory outcome;
- Try to be encouraging and act as a support;
- Don’t be negative about another family member because they don’t agree;
- Don’t force your opinions on anyone;
- If necessary be a shoulder to cry on.
It is important to let other family members contribute to important discussions and for us to listen to what they have to say. Problems usually start when one family member is trying to hog the limelight and others don’t get a look in.
We have much to gain from listening to other people’s views and insightful thoughts. We must learn to communicate with family better and just be a support. Family isn’t about competition and yet it often feels like it is.