Relationships seem even more difficult when families pull in different directions. We will pull in different directions when we work independently of each other, when we’re non-committed and non-supportive.
The following tips may be useful:
- Learn to accept and respect another family member’s decision;
- Try to create balance and harmony;
- Allow family members to make their own decisions;
- Always try and work together to achieve a satisfactory outcome;
- Try and act as a support and be encouraging;
- Give other family members time to problem solve and don’t assume they can’t do it;
- Try not to form negative opinions on others because you can’t agree;
- Give your opinions when asked and don’t force your opinions;
- If necessary be a shoulder to cry on.
It’s also important to let others contribute to important discussions and for us to listen to what others have to say, when we’re not contributing ourselves. Problems usually start when one family member is trying to hog the limelight and others don’t get a look in.
I always believe that we have much to gain from listening to other people’s views and insightful thoughts. We need to communicate, whilst we throw in a little bit of give and take for good measure.