Supporting families

Relationships seem even more difficult when families pull in different directions. We will pull in different directions when we work independently of each other, when we’re non-committed and non-supportive.

The following tips may be useful:

  • Learn to accept and respect another family member’s decision;
  • Try to create balance and harmony;
  • Allow family members to make their own decisions;
  • Always try and work together to achieve a satisfactory outcome;
  • Try and act as a support and be encouraging;
  • Give other family members time to problem solve and don’t assume they can’t do it;
  • Try not to form negative opinions on others because you can’t agree;
  • Give your opinions when asked and don’t force your opinions;
  • If necessary be a shoulder to cry on.

It’s also important to let others contribute to important discussions and for us to listen to what others have to say, when we’re not contributing ourselves. Problems usually start when one family member is trying to hog the limelight and others don’t get a look in.

I always believe that we have much to gain from listening to other people’s views and insightful thoughts. We need to communicate, whilst we throw in a little bit of give and take for good measure.


11 Mar, 2012

6 thoughts on “Supporting families

  1. All good advice – as usual. 🙂

    If only more families could implement such good suggestions.

    I’m lucky, my family leave me alone to get on with my life with my own family and I should be grateful for that.

    1. I like the suggestions too.

      I have to say that you are extremely lucky to have your family let you get on with your life. Unfortunately those are not my experiences.

      Some of the suggestions in my blog I use now and they do work.

  2. Great suggestions. I’ve found the ones I’ve experienced to be true over the years. Sometimes clear and effective communication can be the hardest part.

    Everyone has their own perceptions of what the same event and experience means to them.

    1. Thanks LeAnna and for posting.

      You’re right, clear and effective communication can be the hardest part in any relationship, because what is clear and effective communication to us may, not be so clear and effective to someone else.

      As you suggest, we all have our own perceptions on experience and events which change how we think and feel and communicate. In any event we have to be careful to make sure that what we say, does not offend.

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