We end up doing the wrong thing when we struggle emotionally to do what we know is the right thing, but just can’t bring ourselves to do it.
Emotionally we’re not always equipped to deal with everything that life throws at us, but what happens when someone is dealing with a terminal illness and they need support?
I believe we all come out of our comfort zone at one time or another when we’re dealing with someone who has a terminal illness. For most of us, it can be an enormously uncomfortable and stressful experience.
In the last year I’ve watched my father struggle with his terminal illness. At one point during his illness, I’d even gone so far as to tell him that I may not be there at the final hurdle.
His response was that he knew his children and knew I would be the one to struggle. I’ve always shied away from illness for that very reason.
Unfortunately, for many of us dealing with illness is our greatest fear. Fear changes the way we perceive and deal with those situations; but we must at least try or if we can’t, let the other person know how we feel.
I am under no illusion on what I’ve just been through, but having watched the inevitable happen with my father, just picking up the phone to see how someone is, is probably the least we can do.