If allowed to continue over a period of time, negative thoughts and feelings can turn into obsessions. Obsessions can be brought about through painful childhood experiences and trauma that aren’t dealt with.
Through my own experiences, it’s important we look at, think about and understand our experiences and how those have made us feel. We have got to be able to cope, and move on with our lives, therefore it is important we deal with all our experiences, past and present. Taking baby steps helps makes what we deal with more manageable and achievable.
It is important we try to limit the stress and anxiety our obsessions cause, because stress and anxiety will always make them worse.
So that we can tackle our obsessions, it’s important we expose ourselves to them, because that helps us challenge any fears we have around them. We must subject ourselves to the fear we feel and work through the challenge. Although it’s important we distance ourselves from the source of the obsession, it’s important we deal with the obsession.
Learn to live in the moment, but first deal with the issues you’ve not dealt with. Focus on the things you’ve neglected and also try to keep the people around you positive. Facing your demons will always be difficult. In the beginning you’ll probably feel uncomfortable, you’ll want to back off, you may even feel a little panicky, but those feelings will dissipate the more you stick at it and work things through.
You must ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’. Even if you take one or two steps back before you move forward during the process, one small step at a time, will help you feel less anxious and more in control.
Choose to keep a journal of your obsessions, put the obsessions that cause you less anxiety at the bottom of your list, with the more pressing and challenging ones at the top.
Take the first obsession and begin to practise working through it, until you notice you’re feeling less fear. To break the cycle, you must fight any urges that tempt you back in and not give in to your obsessive tendencies.
The important part is that you’re finally getting to the point where you’re beginning to feel comfortable around tackling your obsessions.