I’m not sure it matters whether you’re the child, the parent, or the grandparent. It’s wrong to take one person’s opinion over another. It’s not something families stop to consciously think about, or stop doing. It’s there and is something that still, continues to be part of the family scenario.
Unless we learn to do things differently, we will always take sides and sitting on the fence shouldn’t be an option. If parents do it, their parents will have done it before them, therefore it’s what we will do.
In larger families, siblings will sometimes take sides with a particular sibling, and children will take sides over their parents. Parents and the family dynamics are responsible for it. To understand how family and friendship dynamics works, is to change the way we see and interact with each other.
We mustn’t take sides. We must learn to be objective. It shouldn’t matter the explanation or whose explanation it is. We must go with what’s right, even if it means taking a different stance. It can’t help our relationships, if we’re taking one person’s opinion over another. It’s what makes family dysfunctional and if that is the case we all need to heal.