I’m not sure how I would have played it had I have been given advice as a child, because it never happened. But it’s often how advice is received that makes giving advice difficult.
Not all of us will be happy to take advice and the truth is, we will all interpret advice very differently. Some of us will be genuinely happy to take advice because we know the advice given will help, others may not particularly if they have their own opinions, or feel there is an element of criticism attached to the advice they’re about to be given.
Is there ever a good time to give advice?
Probably when the person you’re trying to help reaches out and you know they’re ready to take advice. That’s not easy of course, particularly when you think or know that person is struggling. When a person’s not in a position to take advice, the advice we give may not go down well at all.
The advice we give could be seen as condescending. It’s very easy to come across as knowing it all, but that’s further from the truth. Perhaps on our part, it would be easier if we asked the person we’re trying to help if they’re okay and whether they’re looking for ideas or possible solutions.
That way they’re more likely to be open to our suggestions. In any event, when handing out advice, we must be careful how we give out that advice.