The blame game, you know the one. The one where your relationship with anyone and everyone is somehow responsible for how you feel, about issues that aren’t necessarily your fault, but issues you must deal with that need to be addressed.
Even if we’re not to blame for where we are, we can’t turn back the clock, nor can we continually blame the others who aren’t responsible for what we have to deal with. Therefore, perhaps we need to look at own role in how we get to change the way we feel. That doesn’t mean apportioning blame to dissolve responsibility, but instead deal with the root cause.
For many years, my childhood was a cause for my own unhappiness, but as an adult, it was up to me to deal with how I felt about it. It stands to reason that when we move on from one unhappy scenario without correcting it, we go on to find ourselves in exactly the same emotional place, but with a different set of scenarios.
I believe the key is to deal with our issues and if for whatever reason we can’t find what the lesson is, move on without apportioning the blame on to others. Once we’ve dealt with the issue of course, the universe will allow us to move on.