Going into counselling when you have no idea what’s wrong with you doesn’t help you understand your life, let alone make for a productive counselling session.
Counselling was never going to work for me, because the very thing I needed to know that tied my life together had been kept secret for 46 years. Truth be known, every conversation, every session I attended left me more confused.
We can bring acceptance on most things. When the very thing we need to know about isn’t part of that scenario, everything else becomes futile. Finding out that I had cerebral palsy at was the first step to knowing what I was dealing with, I then needed to unravel my symptoms to be able to understand myself.
Counselling helps, but even if we know what’s wrong, unless we’re able to express our concerns, uncertainties and fears, we won’t get the best out of our counselling sessions. Our ability to talk relies on it. We don’t always equate or make the conscious connection between our experiences, our mood or our behaviour.
As a child I was angry, but I wasn’t capable of making the connections between my anger and my physical and emotional problems, but mental health will always rely on us making those connections.