It is only when someone is no longer in our lives that we come to analyse and understand the relationship we had with that person. It is also only when that person is no longer in our lives that we can fully equate how our lives turned out. We know what we know, we know nothing could or would have ever changed.
When we come to see the bigger picture with that person, we may get to see other pictures too. Relationships are intertwined, so that when we’re looking at one relationship, we’re also looking at other relationships that were part of the same scenario. It’s our job to fully understand those relationships, so that we can make informed choices on all of them.
Being in the thick of something doesn’t give us the fuller picture of the situation we’re in, or what we get to deal with. It is only when we look back that we understand and see, by which time it’s too late to change anything.
Other people’s roles will always be their roles. They’re accountable that will never change, but it does pave the way for us to understand their roles. With any scenario playing out, it is important to let go of what we went through. We must only choose to own what’s ours. As we get older, we get better at handling things like anger.
Our experiences, what we went through we must accept, we don’t have to like or agree with it, but we must come to accept. Having the fuller picture helps and allows for a more spiritual life.