It’s usually the old patterns brought about by past experiences that mould our personalities. For some of us, the old patterns will leave us in a worse place as we try to cope with our world and the people in it.
Others may have a clearer understanding of how their experiences can be used positively, to change how they perceive themselves and their lives. The problem with not changing some of the old patterns, means that history will go on to repeat itself through future generations.
The nature of people and the nature of families is that whatever our experiences, those experiences will play out in families, unless we stop them. It’s often difficult unless we know we’re presenting with the old patterns, not to bring those patterns into the family scenarios.
Where possible we should think about our experiences and use those as a stepping-stone, so that we give ourselves the opportunity to turn things around. Allowing myself to be drawn into a hype of more negativity, will stop me from moving forward with my life, so I choose only positivity.
I made a pact with myself many years ago that if I was to have children, my past wouldn’t be their past. It’s often very difficult to stop outside negative influences playing a part in our own family, but we must always try, or we pay the penultimate price.