I’m having a little bit of a down day and am back with my own thoughts. I think if we were to be born to parents that did everything right, we’d be one of the lucky few. I know from being a parent myself, it’s not always easy to know whether we will get the parenting thing right.
Where we think we’re making the right decisions for children, our children may think differently. And perhaps being brought up in a perfect childhood would bring other problems too.
Would we be equipped to deal with someone difficult?
Personally, I don’t think we would be equipped. I have seen first hand from a friend, how difficult it can be to have had an idyllic childhood, then marry someone who is difficult.
My mother always used to say that she didn’t go to school to learn how to be a parent. Looking after a child with Cerebral Palsy meant she was less likely to be equipped, but in hindsight what she meant was, that it was okay for her to make mistakes. We have to do and give of our best always, to make sure we get the parenting thing right, disability or not.
Parents that are stressed or preoccupied, are less likely to have patience for the normal naughtiness of childhood antics. Children are more likely to get caught up in their frustrations and anger of what they deal with.
This is true for me in my childhood.