I’ve spent my life living with people who carry the proverbial chip. The chip they carry seems to be permanently etched deep in their unconscious.
Unfortunately, it’s not something people easily identify with so very little change is made to sort out the problem, but living with a chip eventually makes it someone else’s problem. The proverbial chip is a grudge, something we find hard to let go of.
When life hands us a raw deal and the world’s out to get us, it becomes everyone’s fault but our own. When we’re angry at the world, we have the proverbial chip, a chip that’s not easily rectified. For those of us with the chip, we may get angry, may retreat and cut ourselves off. We may have little to no confidence, with self-esteem in our boots.
However, in the longer term dealing with other people is not something they can avoid indefinitely. If their feelings aren’t contained when they communicate, something they say will usually present itself in the most inappropriate way. That has been my experience.
The proverbial chip is also often associated with status. If society learned not to single people out because of their status, I think people would learn to adapt into their lives better and with each other.
It will always interfere with relationships, but it’s up to us to make sure it doesn’t. The proverbial chip is bad news.