The small things

It’s been easy for me to look back on my father’s life and see how he could have changed so many things to make his life more complete, particularly around his children.

It’s such a waste, that we pitch our lives one way and that benefits us but doesn’t benefit our children. Growing up I was made to fit into my parents’ life, but I’ve never assumed my children should fit their lives into mine.

It’s the little things we should do that make a big difference that we don’t do. Parents don’t have to furnish our children with lavish gifts to show them we care. Emotionally we should be there for them, not to changes how we relate to them.

To leave a positive imprint on our children is so important. They are our lives and that needs to be nurtured.


5 Apr, 2013

6 thoughts on “The small things

  1. I guess I was one of the lucky ones growing up. I had and still have great parents. We did family things. My father really wasn’t into going to the beach, but we all went as a family and sometimes brought along one of our friends and we went every year for our vacation.

    My children have had it hard. All of them have had some kind of problem, be it physical or mental to deal with, but I’ve been there for each one of them. They have been there for me in their own way.

    I feel we could have done more for our older children though, both of which have moved away to start their own lives.

    1. Don’t be too hard on yourself Lisa. I think we can always do more, that’s life but we should at least start and put the effort in, in the first place.

      Each generation does more than the last, but not everyone will buy into that lifestyle and that’s such a shame. Whether we’re the parent or the child, we should all come together and make the effort.

  2. My mom always fitted her life around her kids and therefore I do the same for my son.

    You are right to say that you don’t have to spend a lot of money to show your children you care. Saying I love you often and giving them hugs and telling them you care, goes a long way.

    My brother’s ex-wife had a lot of money and her parents shipped her off to boarding school. She was jealous of my brother and our family’s relationship with one another. She said that her mother hardly ever told her that she loved her, let alone hugged her.

    They say money can’t buy you love, in her instance it’s certainly true. I feel for people like that, going through life without knowing their parents care.

    My family may not be financially rich but we are very wealthy in our love for one another. The best things in life are free, a little love goes a long way for our children.

  3. I agree with everything you have said here. It’s more important to be there for your children than to give them stuff. I have always felt that way.

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