The write & burn letter

Not everyone will have the opportunity to speak to their parents about unresolved childhood issues, which continue to affect them and whilst I would always recommend it, I think it’s important to get your message across in a way that will get you the best results.

Unfortunately, when parents get so many things wrong, children end up with a list that can make them vulnerable to their own shortcomings. If you can’t speak to your parents because you know they’re not approachable, or you know they won’t accept what you want to say, then perhaps write a letter to them that you can burn once you have written it is the way forward.

Before you start the letter, you firstly have to acknowledge your intentions so that the universe understands why you feel the way you do. Say… ‘I now intend and am willing to accept, acknowledge and let go of my emotions and negative beliefs.’

Writing a letter is a good opportunity for you to put the record straight, reduce the issues you carry, by not keeping or holding on to negative thoughts about that person. You must allow yourself the complete freedom to write whatever comes into your mind so that it’s your letter in your own words.

Because everything and everyone is energetically connected through the universe, when you write your letter you’re not only healing yourself, but your letter will be scattered into the universe and will be directed to the person you’ve written to. The point of the exercise is to speak from the heart so that the person you’re writing to understands your sentiments, so they know you’re coming from a place of care.

Write your letter as if you are telling a story. Put down everything you feel about this person and your relationship with them and why you feel the way you do. Writing your letter in this way will release you from all your negativity. It’s a way of speaking to someone without them being in front of you, whilst releasing yourself from any emotional ties.

You must be open-minded though about how the process works for it to work.

The burning ceremony

As you begin to burn your letter say, ‘I now release, burn and clear all of the negativity in my letter. I bind my letter to the light for the greater good of the universe.’ It may sound wacky, but it does work.


22 Sep, 2014

10 thoughts on “The write & burn letter

  1. I don’t think it sounds wacky at all. It sounds like a great idea and I have heard of this before somewhere.

    I may try this when I get a chance. Instead of burning would shredding it work as well? I don’t trust myelf with fire!

    1. I’ll let you into a secret. I have written one or two letters, one only the other day, but haven’t actually get round to burning it and I feel better.

      Although we’re advised we must burn the letters we write to dispose of those hurtful memories, I believe it’s the act of putting those emotions down on paper in our own words that release us emotionally.

      I am sure shredding your letter will work just fine. Once your thoughts are out there and you’ve shared them with the universe, which we’re all attached to… you will have set out to do what you needed to do.

      Burning a letter we’ve written in this way is part of the ceremonial process as outlined in my blog, but it’s working through the process that’s more important. Burning a letter you’ve written in this way is part of the final process of course, but understanding why we’ve taken these steps and letting go through the process, I think is more important.

      Burning your letter will bring the actual process to a close.

  2. I have heard of this before too.

    In fact I did something similar when my daughter was having a problem at school. My daughter wrote the girl’s name on a piece of paper. We froze it into an ice cube. A day later defrosted it, then I ate it! Worked a treat.

    1. I’ve never heard of anyone literally eating another person’s words before! Although I wouldn’t advocate trying this method myself, it sounds as though the process worked.

      It reaffirms my thoughts that it’s the act of writing something down that empowers the individual to address and release the angst that had been troubling them about a person or circumstance.

  3. We actually did this when I went through one of the steps for AA and it seemed to help get rid of some of the baggage!

    It hadn’t dawned on me to do this for my parents until you mentioned it. There are still a lot of hard feelings left, which would be nice to get rid of so I can stop carrying them around.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes it’s not the first thing we think of when we’re dealing with issues. I believe writing & burning a letter works.

      You’ve already tried it Randy. If it were me, I would seriously would want to try it again. Perhaps if you try looking at it another way… you’ve got less to loose and more to gain by trying it, than if you do nothing at all.

      It’s definitely worth another shot Randy.

  4. A few years ago my lovely fella told me to write a letter to my grandma whom had passed away 14yrs before, but I had never got over her death. Every year on her anniversary, I would be an emotional wreck my (mum & I were extremely close to her).

    He asked me to explain how I felt when I heard certain songs that would also make me break down, he then said I was to write a letter to her, telling her how I felt when she passed (she had an aortic aneurysm) and when I got to hospital she was brain dead, (but been kept alive by machines).

    my then fiancé took me home before they switched the machines off and I never got to say good bye before her funeral. I wrote my letter to her, read it out aloud before burning it.

    The next year on her anniversary I was okay, felt a little sad, but no more emotional wreck.

    1. Thanks Michelle and welcome to the site. I believe the ‘write and burn’ method works.

      Basically what we’re doing is putting our thoughts out to the universe and although circumstances may have moved on in that time, the seed we send out will get to its destination.

      As with everything, we have to believe that what we’re doing will work. I believe it does. Our letter is a conversation with the universe.

  5. I have just wrote a letter to the universe it was 4 pages long, the first 3 pages where about my fears and lots of negativity that I need to release the last page (4) was gratitude and things I desire.

    I have a fire in my home and I put the letter on the fire 1 by 1 in order; the first 3 pages burnt into ashes. The 4th page took a light and just flew up the chimney!

    What does this mean? Has this happened to anyone before?

    1. Hi Chloe and welcome to the site. I believe the universe was sending a message back to you through a loved one to confirm and acknowledge what you’d done. On the gratitude and desire they wanted you to know they understand and agree. Now it’s for you to go out and make your life happen.

      The past is gone. What you’ve had to deal with is gone, now it’s time for you to move on. I believe ‘the write & burn letter’ method does work, because it’s a conversation between you and the Universe. The more conciliatory we are the more the universe will work with us to make things happen.

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