Not everyone in their lifetime will have the opportunity to speak to their parents about unresolved childhood issues, which affect them in their everyday life and whilst I would always recommend it, I think it important to try to get your message across in a way that’s not only appropriate but will get you the best result.
Unfortunately, when parents get so many things wrong, children end up with a list that can make them more vulnerable about their own shortcomings. If you can’t speak to your parents because you know they’re not approachable, or you know they won’t accept what you want to say, then writing a letter to them that you will burn once you have written it, is the way forward.
Before we start the letter, we firstly have to acknowledge our intentions so that the universe understands why we feel the way we do. Say… ‘I now intend and am willing to accept, acknowledge and let go of my emotions and negative beliefs.’
Writing a letter (it could be to anyone) is a good opportunity for us to put the record straight, reduce the amount of baggage we carry by not keeping or holding on to negative thoughts about that person. We must allow ourselves complete freedom to write whatever comes into our mind so that it’s our letter in our words, with no one telling us what we can write.
The way it works
Because everything and everyone is energetically connected through the universe, when you write your letter you’re not only healing yourself in the process, but your letter will also have an effect on the person you’re writing to.
The point of the exercise isn’t to mouth off or bleat everything out on paper. The point of the exercise is to speak from the heart so that the person you’re writing to understands your sentiments, so they know you’re coming from a place of care.
How to write your letter
Write your letter as if you are telling a story. Put down everything you feel about this person and your relationship with them and why you feel the way you do. I believe writing your letter in this way will release you from all your negativity. It’s a way of speaking to someone without them being in front of you and allowing you to say everything you feel you need to say, whilst releasing yourself from the emotional connections, the emotional ties. You must be open-minded though about how the process works for it to work.
The burning ceremony
As you begin to burn your letter say, ‘I now release, burn and clear all of the negativity in my letter. I bind my letter to the light for the greater good of the universe.’ It may sound wacky to some, but it does work.