Thoughts on being happy

As a child, I never thought about whether I was happy or sad. I knew I existed and that was my life. I have changed a lot since those early days.

But there is no doubt in my mind that we make our own happiness and that being pro-active is an important element of that.

The following suggestions on how to be proactive are below:

  • Take responsibility for your mistakes and be okay with them;
  • Stop blaming others for your mistakes and making excuses all the time. Making excuses simply allows you to deny your responsibilities;
  • Stop trying to avoid being proactive around change, because change needs to happen, because without change you cannot emotionally or spiritually grow;
  • Try to be aware of any negative self-talk as you go through the process;
  • Dealing with your issues will allow you to move forward with confidence;
  • Challenges initiate change and growth and that’s okay;
  • Problems stay problems because our thoughts limit our resolve to deal with them, therefore we must deal with our thoughts.

Although my spiritual beliefs bring me understanding and that makes me happy, I still have issues that I need to resolve and being pro-active helps with that.


23 Apr, 2012

6 thoughts on “Thoughts on being happy

  1. Great post and some seriously good tips. I am sure we could all benefit from a confidence boost and your suggestions are all good ones.

  2. Great advice Ilana.

    I try to take responsibility for myself and my actions. The problem comes when I try to explain ‘why’ or ‘the reason’ I didn’t do something, I get told that I’m blaming someone or something else.

    I do the ‘Negative self talk,’ but I am trying to stop. Any advice you can give?

    1. Thank you. I can relate. I used to do the ‘Negative self talk’ all the time when I was little. I believe it’s a confidence thing. You and I had very little emotional support growing up and that’s where it comes from.

      The more proactive you are, the more confident you will be, the less ‘Negative self talk’ you will do, the happier you will be. Believe in yourself Bill and you will begin to perceive yourself differently. It’s a state of mind.

  3. I do try to take responsibility for myself and sometimes others like my family members but that doesn’t always work.

    1. Each and everyone of us have to responsibility for ourselves. Of course when our children are little, we do have responsibility for them, but as they grow and become adults that responsibility shifts to them being responsible for themselves.

      We can never be responsible for other family members, they have to be that for themselves. It would never expect to work.

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