Thoughts on being happy

As a child, I never thought about whether I was happy or sad. I knew I existed in my life and that was my life. I have changed a lot since those early days.

My following suggestions may help:

  • No matter your childhood take responsibility for yourself;
  • It is important to stop blaming others and to stop making excuses;
  • Change happens even if we try to avoid it;
  • Change happens for a reason, we need to look for the reason;
  • Try to be aware of how you talk to yourself;
  • Stop running away from issues;
  • Allow your challenges to initiate emotional change and spiritual growth;
  • Problems may stay problems because our thoughts can limit our resolve to deal with those problems, therefore we need to deal with our thoughts.

What I know is we need to first resolve our issues, then we can have the opportunity of being happy.


23 Apr, 2012

6 thoughts on “Thoughts on being happy

  1. Great post and some seriously good tips. I am sure we could all benefit from a confidence boost and your suggestions are all good ones.

  2. Great advice Ilana.

    I try to take responsibility for myself and my actions. The problem comes when I try to explain ‘why’ or ‘the reason’ I didn’t do something, I get told that I’m blaming someone or something else.

    I do the ‘Negative self talk,’ but I am trying to stop. Any advice you can give?

    1. Thank you. I can relate. I used to do the ‘Negative self talk’ all the time when I was little. I believe it’s a confidence thing. You and I had very little emotional support growing up and that’s where it comes from.

      The more proactive you are, the more confident you will be, the less ‘Negative self talk’ you will do, the happier you will be. Believe in yourself Bill and you will begin to perceive yourself differently. It’s a state of mind.

  3. I do try to take responsibility for myself and sometimes others like my family members but that doesn’t always work.

    1. Each and everyone of us have to responsibility for ourselves. Of course when our children are little, we do have responsibility for them, but as they grow and become adults that responsibility shifts to them being responsible for themselves.

      We can never be responsible for other family members, they have to be that for themselves. It would never expect to work.

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