We hold on to our most inner thoughts at the thought of losing someone we love. Growing up my parents seemed to be immortal. When my mother passed, I couldn’t imagine her not being in my life, because I still had my father. Now I cannot imagine a life without him.
As a child, I wasn’t encouraged to explore the possibilities that I might have to deal with someone’s illness or their passing, let alone deal with my parents’ illness or passing. I was completely shielded from anything to do with death and in my twenties when I was faced with losing someone close to me for the first time, I didn’t cope very well. Just thinking about it, scared me half to death.
Considering death is inevitable and is our only one certainty, we need to talk about it more; bring it into the conversation. We should all be encouraged to talk about death as part of life, instead of it being something that’s hidden away. I know that being able to talk about death in this way, won’t make it seem so scary when the time comes.
Today, my beliefs have given me a positive focus on the process. I’m not seeing death as something traumatic or final. I still believe our loved ones stay around us, they’re just not physically with us.
I don’t feel scared to let go of what I have had and have known for all of these years. I want my father to be at peace. In the last few months that is and has always been my priority.