Life can be difficult, relationships can be difficult and how we react in those relationships, can also be difficult.
When we react blindly
Problems will always occur in our relationships, because we react blindly as we blame and continue to blame the other person. It’s easy for us to get caught up in the moment of a ‘reaction,’ but all that serves to do, is shift the blame onwards on what we should and need to be dealing with ourselves.
Relationships teach us to communicate. Relationships also teach us about commitment and how to be responsible. Being responsible means responding without needing to react all the time. I say should because it’s something we don’t always do.
When we respond correctly, we give the best of ourselves; that allows us to bond and build the foundations for a loving relationship. I have seen first-hand how relationships struggle to function, because one or both partners currently continue to live in the past.
Relationships flounder because the relationship is too difficult to handle, as we fail to understand the other person. The past tends to follow us like a lost soul until we let it go; but to do that we need to deal with it first. Any uncertainties we have currently, are usually based on how we feel about our past.
It is important that our thoughts and feelings are what we feel now; not something that happened years ago that we’re still struggling with. For all relationships to work, we need to be open, honest and need to communicate these things.
For me the key is communication because without communication there is fundamentally no relationship.