Depending on our parentage, each of us as an individual will grow up differently. As a child, I was never encouraged to make decisions about my life, they were always being made for me, so I didn’t have a chance to grow up emotionally.
And although I was holding down a job from the age of 18, I didn’t feel ready to take on the world. When I moved on with my life at the age of 25 that’s when things slowly began to change for me. It was like being thrown in at the deep end without being taught to swim.
I taught myself how to make decisions and how to be independent. I began to learn, began to grow and slowly began to change my life around. My priorities began to change. I found a voice in me that I never knew I had. For the first time I started to look at my own life.
That all took time, well a few years, but eventually actually, but through that time I began to alter my thinking and my attitude towards my life and the people that played their part in it. I began to create my own emotional space. Having space allows us to renew ourselves, this time with a more positive outlook.
So the next time you want emotional space, or you want to catch up on a hobby, don’t feel guilty about it. You’ll feel remarkably relaxed having time for yourself.