Turning the other cheek

Do we turn the other cheek or run away when it comes to problems that need sorting out, or as your feelings change, do you begin to throw doubt on your abilities?  We know what we need to deal with, we can see it, but uncertainty stops us from working through it.

But running away or turning the other cheek doesn’t solve anything. And although problems may make us panic where we wouldn’t otherwise panic, where problems may make us confused where we wouldn’t otherwise be confused, it’s easy to see why those things can make us feel out of our depth and control.

When we’re out of control, it’s easy to lose sight, so we turn the other cheek in the hope that our problems will go away or magically right themselves. But running away can only set us up to fail. Running magnifies our problems even more. Where we go, our problems go with us.

We learn new strategies when we work through problems, we may even find solutions in the process. The process helps us find acceptance and helps us change.

We sadly can’t run away from life or problems, and must learn to deal with both.

16 Jun, 2011

6 thoughts on “Turning the other cheek

  1. I understand this very well.

    You do not think you are ever going to come out the other side and see the sun shine again, but it does happen. Things do get better. You just have to believe that.

    When we face a problem head on and solve it it gives us strength and power to continue. We feel in control.

  2. I agree. I find that if I’m faced with a problem I get motivated from others and then I can handle the situation.

    I also sometimes walk out and take a breather because I know I will say something I’ll regret. This happened yesterday. I became very frustrated with someone and had to walk outside to take a deep breath.

    A friend of mine said she was proud of me for doing this because she would have clobbered the other person!

    1. It’s good that other people motivate you, so that you are able to deal with your problems. I think we all find our own coping mechanisms and that has to be okay.

      Whatever works for us is good, however we choose to deal with it.

  3. Yes, this is a subject that I can understand all too well.

    I’ve spent the majority of my life running away from my problems and now at 42 years old I have to grow up and deal with them. Like you said, our problems always go with us, no matter where we go.

    I’m hoping and praying that I can do what needs to be done. I know it will be a very painful process, to put it mildly! I’m very tired of always feeling like I’m running away.

    It would be nice to feel like I could stay in one place,and deal with things. Only time will tell what the future will bring.

    1. I don’t think you are alone Randy. Emotionally I am sure most of us will have done that at some point or another.

      It is good that you recognise that you have a tendency to run away, but I am pleased that you also know you need to deal with not running away.

      I am here for you. Thank you for posting.

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