It’s never easy being a twin, unless twins are treated as individuals. Neither of us faired any better, or were treated any differently. We attended the same school, were in the same class and had the same friends.
Being one of a twin and being born second, meant that I would always lean towards my twin. With twin scenarios, it’s usual to have one twin that leads and couple that with the fact that I had Cerebral Palsy meant that as a child I would have more to deal with and would eventually go on to struggle with both.
It’s also always harder on the conforming twin, particularly if their parents aren’t treating them as individuals. Being a parent I know only too well how the parenting thing works. I treat both my children as individuals, make decisions based on their behaviour with me and with each other.
As individuals, we’re responsible for what we put out there. It’s up to children not stand in judgment or blame the other when she or he is clearly at fault. Anyone being blamed for another siblings’ behaviour isn’t fair and being in the middle is always the hardest place to be.