As children, we look for acceptance. As we begin to build on our relationships, we spend our lives trying to convince those people we’re worthy contenders, instead of us learning to be who we are. Consequently, we may never know who we are.
We spend our lives worrying that if we’re not accepted, that we’re somehow not worthy. We put pressure on ourselves just so that we will fit in. We spend a lifetime living up to other people’s expectations, instead of living up to our own. We spend our lives living other people’s lives.
That’s how we work at life, but that’s not how life should be. Life should be about having and making our own choices and making sure those choices are right. Life is being around the people we choose and want to be with and who make us happy. Life is finding success and pleasure in the little things and not worrying so much about the big things.
Life is about self-acceptance, doing what we want to do because we can, not because someone tells us we can. Being happy with what we have, without looking to others for validation all the time.
If you can find a way to change the things that hold you back, you will have a life. I know that because as a child this was my life.