My grandmother was unassuming. I loved her unassuming personality and that quality in her. There were many other endearing qualities of hers that I embraced. She was happy in her own company.
When someone is unassuming, when something big happens in their life, they deal with it in the same unassuming way, but not always in a pro-active, get up and deal with it way, particularly when other people want to help them because they’re seeing them struggle.
An unassuming person has no intention or desire to be praised or even noticed, they’re not pretentious or arrogant, but are shy and may have little confidence. They tend to work steadily in the background.
They get on with their lives quietly and won’t take or ask for help, even if they need it and as long as someone isn’t trying to push an agenda or take control, they will listen, unless of course, the person trying to talk to them is intimidating.
For those who are unassuming, they’re more likely to accept help when they’re at the stage where they’re emotionally ready to let others help them, but unassuming people aren’t always in a position where they’re ready to accept help.
My grandmother wanted help, but didn’t like to directly ask. Perhaps it was her lack of confidence that stopped her from asking. I believe it is, but it is still an endearing quality to have.