Understanding our worth

20 Apr 2016

As a child I used to think that giving up in general, meant it was because we had no staying power that we were emotionally weak. Of course as an adult I see things differently and generally believe the opposite to be true.

That when we choose to walk away it has got nothing to do with a lack of staying power or emotional weakness, but has everything to do with how emotionally strong we are. When we walk away because things aren’t right, we come to realise our worth, not because we need others to know why.

For those who constantly pay attention to what other people think, we will always lose sight of our own worth and how strong we really are. We shouldn’t have to prove or validate ourselves to anyone, nor should we have to prove or convince others of our worth. Only what we know for ourselves.

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  1. Tim 20. Apr, 2016 at 7:37 pm #

    Our self worth deteriorates gradually when we’re enveloped by people incapable of seeing our worth. That’s why it’s so important to walk away and clutch your dreams before negativity becomes part of your personality.

    But your second paragraph may be the most profound thing I’ve ever read, you said something precious, indeed.

    • Ilana 20. Apr, 2016 at 10:02 pm #

      Awww thanks Tim. Yes it absolutely does. I couldn’t agree more.

  2. Randy 21. Apr, 2016 at 7:01 pm #

    I haven’t felt ‘worth’ anything for a very long time! It was always directly tied to what other people thought of me, especially my parents.

    It came to a point where nothing I did for them mattered anyway, so why bother? I have let people control me and allowed life to grind me down, so it hasn’t been very pleasant. It’s so very hard to want to accomplish anything when the very people who should be proud of you wouldn’t notice if you cured cancer or went to Mars.

    I’m just so tired of living my life, based on what others want me to do, when I should be able to make my own decisions. I have to work on getting beyond the guilt, shame and remorse to work on finally making my life worth something.

    • Ilana 21. Apr, 2016 at 7:51 pm #

      Thanks Randy. It’s not that what you did for your parents didn’t matter.

      It mattered, they just weren’t capable of helping themselves, therefore couldn’t help you. If they could and were capable, whatever you had have done would have mattered. This isn’t about you.

      It’s the way I feel we should all look at our lives. It’s not that we don’t think we are worthy, or shouldn’t. When we look back we are worthy, but the people around us aren’t aware or capable of giving us what we need so that we feel we are worthy.

      On our part we must come to understand our parents and our worth, so we don’t take what they do personally.

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