Unexpected visitors

Someone once said it was fascinating, how when someone is terminally ill, we crawl out of the woodwork unexpectedly, to pay our respects, even though we may not have had nothing to do with them for years.

And it got me thinking. Perhaps it’s done because we may want that person to remember us, or perhaps we may feel guilty for not having been in that person’s life. Whatever the reason, it’s making peace, so they get to say their goodbyes.

Whatever your thoughts on why it happens, I believe it’s much easier to put right what’s wrong, long before we may get to the stage where we’re having to say our goodbyes.

When it gets to that stage and we come back in, it may often be too late to say or do anything, so the initial issue goes unresolved. The other person may also know the problem’s there, it’s just not something talked about.

The problem with disagreements and arguments are that they turn into grudges and the problem with grudges is they may seem difficult to overcome, yet they are so easy to correct. A lot of what is said, is usually down to interpretation.

In hindsight it’s so easy to look back on arguments and not easily remember what the argument was about, but leaving these things until it’s too late, means the issues are never resolved.


4 Mar, 2012

2 thoughts on “Unexpected visitors

  1. I agree with you. I think things need to be handled before it’s too late, if they are to be handled.

    I do also think that people don’t take the time to visit like they used to. We are so busy with our lives nowadays, we don’t take the time to go visiting.

    1. I understand your point about people being too busy to visit other people. Generally speaking you are right, but being terminally ill is something different.

      People will generally make the time to pay their respects in those kind of circumstances. It’s when we think we have time to visit people, we tend to use being busy an excuse or don’t see the need. Thanks for posting Lisa.

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