Unintentioned decisions

When you look deep into another person’s soul, and you come to understand his or her motives and intentions, it is easy to understand why they took the decision they took.

When I peel back the layers, I can see and understand the reasoning behind what happened to me more clearly. When we can reason, it makes our experiences that little bit easier. It doesn’t take away the responsibility from those responsible, but it does give us clarity where we might not have clarity.

What happened to me, eventually changed the course of my life and direction and although I was initially unconsciously determined not to give up, I still had to reconcile that I might never know about my disability.

That part wasn’t easy and there is no excuse for what happened. As soon as we make someone’s actions an excuse, we accept abuse as part of our lives. Abuse must be stamped out.

It’s often difficult to understand, but through it all, we must still try to understand and reconcile other people’s motives.

27 Mar, 2019

2 thoughts on “Unintentioned decisions

  1. People usually choose the softer, easier way which is the decision my parents often made. My mother would keep complaining about one issue or another and my dad would do dog tricks trying to make her happy.

    The biggest problem with that decision, was they seemed to forget that they had 4 kids; they didn’t stop and think how it would affect us. They chose to ignore the herd of elephants in the living-room while we were the ones getting trampled in the stampede.

    Looking back, it’s pretty easy to see why things happened the way that they did, even though most of the time what they did didn’t make a lot of sense.

    My dad did everything he could to make my mother happy, but nothing ever seemed to work, so we were in trouble from the start.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, a dysfunctional relationship will always be dysfunctional until one or both people change it. Although no one goes to school to be a parent, it’s important parents at least try to fathom things out and put their children first.

      Your experiences and mine also show how that didn’t happen. Where we could do the same thing with our own children, it’s important we work to change that. Each of us have a responsibility and will leave a legacy behind. I believe it’s important we leave the right legacy.

      All children want to know is that their parents at least tried, even if they don’t achieve everything.

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