Unintentioned decisions

When you’re able to look deep into another person’s personality and you come to understand his or her motives and intentions, it’s easy to then understand why their decision was the decision they took, although that’s not true in every case.

I know what happened to me wasn’t personal. Although conscious decisions were taken to ignore my disability, it was never intentioned. When I peel back all the layers, I can see the reasoning behind what happened to me more clearly. When we can reason, it makes things that little bit easier.

It doesn’t take away what’s happened or the responsibility from those responsible, but it does give clarity where there would be no clarity. What happened to me, eventually changed the course of my life and direction and although I was determined not to give up, I still felt I had no choice but to reconcile that I might never know about my disability.

That wasn’t easy and there is no excuse for what happened to me. As soon as we make someone’s actions an excuse, we accept abuse as part of our lives and that can never be allowed to happen. Abuse must be stamped out.

It is often difficult to understand why we have the life we have, but through that we must still try to understand and reconcile other people’s motives.


27 Mar, 2019

2 thoughts on “Unintentioned decisions

  1. People usually choose the softer, easier way which is the decision my parents often made. My mother would keep complaining about one issue or another and my dad would do dog tricks trying to make her happy.

    The biggest problem with that decision, was they seemed to forget that they had 4 kids; they didn’t stop and think how it would affect us. They chose to ignore the herd of elephants in the living-room while we were the ones getting trampled in the stampede.

    Looking back, it’s pretty easy to see why things happened the way that they did, even though most of the time what they did didn’t make a lot of sense.

    My dad did everything he could to make my mother happy, but nothing ever seemed to work, so we were in trouble from the start.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, a dysfunctional relationship will always be dysfunctional until one or both people change it. Although no one goes to school to be a parent, it’s important parents at least try to fathom things out and put their children first.

      Your experiences and mine also show how that didn’t happen. Where we could do the same thing with our own children, it’s important we work to change that. Each of us have a responsibility and will leave a legacy behind. I believe it’s important we leave the right legacy.

      All children want to know is that their parents at least tried, even if they don’t achieve everything.

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