We can cry about life, how things have worked out, where we are and what we’ve not achieved, or we can rationale and work on the changes we need to make. I chose to move forward. There is no point in lamenting over a life lost.
Even if we could have done things differently, there is no point to dwelling on the things we can’t change. It is only when we look back at our experiences that we see there is nothing we could have changed, the rest of the time of course, we continue to convince ourselves otherwise.
It is important to show and express regret, but those things can never change where we are and how we got to where we are. And where there is no point, it doesn’t stop us thinking there is a point. We will always become angry, irritable and frustrated when we continue to convince ourselves we could or should have been able to change aspects of our lives.
Where we spend years unconsciously convincing ourselves it’s our fault, it’s not always our fault. That’s what keeps us fixated and stuck. The truth is that if we could have changed things, those things would have been changed.
We’d be living a different life and we’d be different people. Are there things I would choose to change in my own life? Yes, because my choices were never my choices. I would have had to have been born into a different life for that.