We can cry about life, how things have worked out, where we are and what we’ve not achieved, or we can rationale and work on any changes we need to make. In my own case, I chose to move forward. There is no point lamenting over a life lost.
Even if we could have done things differently, there’s no point to dwelling on the things we can’t change. It’s only when we look back at our experiences that we actually see that there is nothing we can change, but there is everything we would like to change, the rest of the time of course, we continue to convince ourselves otherwise.
Of course, it’s important for us to show and express regret, but those things will never change where we are and how we got to where we are. And where there is no point, it doesn’t stop us thinking there is a point. We will always become angry, irritable and frustrated when we continue to convince ourselves we could or should have been able to change things.
Where we spend years unconsciously convincing ourselves it’s our fault, it’s actually not our fault. That’s what keeps us fixated and stuck. The truth is that if we could have changed things, those things would have been changed.
We’d be living a different life and we’d be different people. Are there things I would choose to change in my own life. Yes, because my choices were never my choices. I would have had to have been born into a different life for that.