We listen to what we want to hear. Most of us will open our ears to information that only concurs with our beliefs and will refute information we don’t agree with. Because of confirmation bias, people will listen to those people whose views they already know are similar to their own.
A lack of agreement or harmony between two people will always play a role in how we communicate. If we like someone, we’re more likely to want to listen. Although confirmation bias and cognitive dissonance make us more likely to reject certain observations, I think a new way of thinking is needed when it comes to us listening.
We learn as a child what’s right and wrong. It’s right to listen to what someone has to say, it’s wrong not to listen intently, just because we don’t agree with someone’s views, or we’re not keen on their views, or on them.
If we’re really not keen on those we’re not listening to, then why are they in our lives and if they are in our lives why are we not listening?