We listen to what we want to hear. Most of us will open our ears to information that only concurs with our beliefs and will refute information we don’t agree with. Because of confirmation bias, people will listen to those people whose views they already know are similar to their own.
Unfortunately, a lack of agreement or harmony between two people will always play a role in how we choose to communicate. If we like someone, we’re more likely to want to listen to that person’s perspective. Although confirmation bias and cognitive dissonance make us more likely to reject certain observations, I think a new way of thinking is needed on the whole issue of listening.
We learn as a child right and wrong. It’s right to listen to what anyone has to say; it’s wrong to not to listen to people intently, just because we don’t agree with their views; we’re not keen on their views or on them.
If we’re really not keen on those we choose not to listen to, why are they in our lives and if they are in our lives why are we not listening?