It’s easy to look back and re-write history, by convincing ourselves that we could have done more to change an outcome, but from a lifetime’s experience, there’s simply no need. We did what we could at the time. Emotionally we will always beat ourselves up when we continually convince ourselves we should have done more, but instead we must tell ourselves our lives could never have been any different.
I don’t believe it’s because we didn’t understand our circumstances, or that we didn’t do the best we could in those circumstances, or that we should have done things differently. It’s only when we come to look back on what we have done, we come to realise there was nothing we could do that was different, to change the outcome and that it’s time to move on.
The reality is that the person we struggle with, is not for changing and has nothing to do with what we have or haven’t done. When we start from a place of struggle, we will always struggle.
That’s what we need to understand. It’s right that we stop beating ourselves up, quieten the mind, let go and move on. In those circumstances, there is simply nothing we could have done.