If others don’t see an issue in their actions, they will never change. All we can do is change the way we see their actions. The deed doesn’t change, but our actions to the deed will need to change, if they’re not changing.
For as many years as I spent in counselling trying to sort out my childhood issues, I spent as many years again waiting for those close to me to understand how their actions had affected me, but it was me who wasn’t getting it.
We don’t make the connections that although others should change their actions, particularly if what they’re doing is affecting us, they aren’t always going to change and therefore, it is us who needs to change.