We’re born equal

We’re born equal. It’s what happens from birth onwards that has a bearing on our lives.

Given a platform and having support is always a great place to start and helps us take that step forward to carving out a successful life, but even without those earlier opportunities in place, we can still go on to become as equal or as successful as those who started off with the help.

It may just take us longer. Alternatively, we may continue to see ourselves as victims of circumstance. Some of us have already unconsciously chosen that path, as we continually hide behind a façade of many guises. What’s important is seeking out opportunities as they arise.

Learning to become self-sufficient is enough to change our perceptions and our circumstances. Change your circumstances by looking for the opportunities to make your life a success. Although we’re born equal, we’re not born successful. That is something we must work at.

1 Aug, 2015

8 thoughts on “We’re born equal

  1. I agree we are all born equal. We develop obstacles in our mind based on other people’s actions, opinions and life situations we have to deal with.

    One of the obstacles we cause ourselves is feeling sorry for ourselves. I have been guilty of this. It just causes us to get stuck in a rut and to suffer uselessly.

    I can’t change the fact that I have a disability, but I can make the best of it; try to live a fulfilling life my way.

    1. Thanks Maria. I couldn’t agree more. Even with a disability, we are as equal as the next. In my mind, a physical impairment doesn’t make us less equal.

      We’re human and that means we qualify.

  2. Yes, we are all born equal, but circumstances are so different as to how we turn out. Many people have loving stable homes, while others grow up living like the show ‘Shameless!’

    My father was from the country, but my mother came from a wealthy family, so there were a lot of mixed messages on how we were supposed to act and live. People ended up treating us like ‘poor white trash, which made me truly detest those who have money and think they’re better than everyone else!

    Needless to say, I lived most of my life thinking I was just that and wasn’t worthy of having anything good in my life. It set up behavior patterns where I would constantly be self-sabotaging and throwing away anything good in my life before anyone else had a chance to take it away from me, which happened most of my childhood.

    I hated myself for things I had done and even a lot of things I hadn’t, since my parents were so good at heaping their baggage onto us kids. I often wonder why people bother to have kids when they make them feel like such a burden.

    The reality is that ultimately we do have some control over how we decide to live our lives. We don’t always have the ability to choose what happens, but it depends on how we deal with it. The expression that comes to mind is something like, ‘the first time something happens to you you’re a victim, but after that you’re a volunteer!’

    You can’t expect to keep doing the same things and get different results. The hardest part is learning the difference between what I can change and what I can’t so that I can live my life.

    1. Thanks Randy. What you describe is the nature of how society often behaves. As you say we start off equal, then our circumstances change.

      I think you’re right in what you say. Once we learn to make the connections of things that happen in our life, we become more informed about our choices. We come to learn what is acceptable, what we are willing to accept and what we need to change.

      Families do have a tendency to bring about mixed messages, which comes from our different backgrounds. It’s important for any family to be united and together in their thinking so that ‘mixed messages’ become a thing of the past. When two many opinions are being branded about, it’s difficult to know which path to take.

      It’s also how we feel about ourselves and that’s our biggest problem. If we feel worthy, we will feel equal.

  3. Absolutely, we’re all born equal. But each of us are born to different terms and conditions where equality is based on our identity, culture and affliction.

    Our concern for equality is articulated in our rhetoric, but very much ignored by societies as a whole. We are born equal and we will all die that way.

    1. Thanks Tim. You’ve hit the nail on the head in your first paragraph. I too believe each of us are born into different terms and conditions where equality is based on our identity, culture and affliction and that’s become our biggest problem.

      It’s often because of the cultural divide that many of us don’t see ourselves as equal. I do believe culture divides us. Often it’s how other people make us feel.

  4. Just as in Orwell’s Animal Farm, my view is there is no such thing as equality, even at birth. We are born into unique circumstances and in that way our inequality is sealed from day one.

    For many, life just reinforces those inequalities whereas others seem to flourish in spite of it. Ultimately this is the tragedy of the human condition.

    1. Looking at the bigger picture of what we’re born into will always make for inequality you’re right, but for that split second around our birth, I believe we’re equal.

      I agree that everyone’s circumstances are unique, but being equal is a state of mind too. If we’re confident and believe we’re the same that will invariably change how we see ourselves and how we choose to interact with others.

      If we think we’re better than others, we will never see other people as equal.

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