We’re born equal

We’re born equal. It’s what happens from birth that has a bearing on us being equal. Having support is a good place to start.

Support allows us take the next step to us carving out a successful life. I believe that without our earlier opportunities, we can still go on to become as equal or as successful as those who started off with the help.

It may take us longer although there may be some people who struggle. They may see themselves as victims of circumstance. Having unconsciously chosen that path, they will continue to hide behind a façade.

What is important is us seeking out opportunities as they arise. Learning to be self-sufficient is enough for us to change our perceptions and our circumstances. We tend to work things out as we go.

So, change your circumstances by looking for the opportunities to make your life a success. Although we’re born equal, we’re not born successful. That is something we must continue to work on.


1 Aug, 2015

8 thoughts on “We’re born equal

  1. I agree we’re all born equal. We develop obstacles in our mind based on other people’s actions, opinions and life situations we have to deal with.

    One of the obstacles we cause ourselves is feeling sorry for ourselves. I am guilty of this. It just causes us to get stuck in a rut and to suffer uselessly.

    I can’t change the fact that I have a disability, but I can make the best of it by trying to live a fulfilling life my way.

    1. Thanks Maria. Yes, I agree. A physical impairment doesn’t make us less equal. We’re human and that means we qualify.

  2. Yes, we are all born equal, but circumstances are so different as to how we turn out. Many people have loving stable homes, while others grow up living like the show ‘Shameless.’

    My father was from the country, but my mother came from a wealthy family, so there were a lot of mixed messages on how we were supposed to act and live.

    People ended up treating us like poor white trash, which made me detest those who had money and think they were better than everyone else.

    Needless to say, I lived most of my life thinking I wasn’t worthy of having anything good. It set up behaviour patterns where I would constantly be self-sabotaging by throwing away anything good before anyone else had a chance to take it away from me.

    I hated myself for things I had done and even a lot of things I hadn’t, since my parents were so good at heaping their baggage on to us.

    The reality is that ultimately we do have some control over how we decide to live our lives. We don’t always have the ability to choose what happens, but it depends on how we deal with it.

    The expression that comes to mind is something like, ‘the first time something happens to you you’re a victim, but after that you’re a volunteer.’

    You can’t expect to keep doing the same things and get different results. The hardest part is learning the difference between what I can change and what I can’t, so that I can live my life.

    1. Thanks Randy. What you describe is the nature of how society behaves. I think you’re right. Once we learn to make the connections of things that happen to us, we become more informed about our choices.

      We come to learn what is acceptable, what we are willing to accept and what we need to change. Families do have a tendency to give us mixed messages, which comes from our parents’ different backgrounds.

      It’s important for family to be united and together in their thinking so that mixed messages don’t become a thing. When two many opinions are being banded about, it’s difficult to know which path to take.

      It’s also how we feel about ourselves and that’s our biggest problem. If you feel worthy, you will feel equal.

  3. Absolutely, we’re all born equal. But each of us are born to different terms and conditions where equality is based on our identity, culture and affliction.

    Our concern for equality is articulated in our rhetoric, but very much ignored by societies as a whole. We are born equal and we will all die that way.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, you’ve hit the nail on the head. I also believe each of us are born into different terms and conditions where equality is based on our identity, culture and affliction and that’s become our biggest problem.

      It’s often because of the cultural divide that many of us don’t see ourselves as equal. It’s also how other people make us feel.

  4. Just as in Orwell’s Animal Farm, my view is there is no such thing as equality, even at birth. We are born into unique circumstances and in that way our inequality is sealed from day one.

    For many, life just reinforces those inequalities whereas others seem to flourish in spite of it. Ultimately this is the tragedy of the human condition.

    1. Looking at the bigger picture of what we’re born into will always make for inequality you’re right, but for that split second around our birth, I believe we’re equal.

      I agree that everyone’s circumstances are unique, but being equal is a state of mind too. If we’re confident and believe we’re the same that will invariably change how we see ourselves and how we choose to interact with others.

      If we think we’re better than others, we will never see other people as equal.

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