As we journey through life, we accumulate various behaviour patterns, which if we let them, keep us permanently stuck, as those patterns continue to impact our lives.
As a child that thought wasn’t something I was consciously aware of, I also didn’t have enough understanding around my circumstances to give me a clear direction of a way forward. I can see that now. I would have wanted a different path.
Also, we spend our lives convincing ourselves that it’s not us with the problem and I know that in my case it wasn’t my problem, but there will always be certain aspects we can change, regardless of who is at fault. It is only when we begin to struggle with certain aspects of our life that we begin to see that we need to change.
We stay stuck when:
- We continue to blame others for our lives;
- We’re unsure how to move forward;
- We’re stuck in a rut;
- We fail to understand our lives;
- We tell ourselves there is little point because things won’t change;
- We’re not emotionally ready to move on.
We’re subconsciously comfortable that way and become scared at the prospect of having to work through any changes, however small. When we decide it’s time to deal with familiar behaviour patterns that keep us stuck, we will finally move on.
I know because I was that child.