What makes us happy?

Because our emotions aren’t an exact science, do we really know how to be happy? Is being happy something we fleetingly come in and out of?

It’s not always easy to know what makes us happy. Some of us may automatically know, it may take others time to find out. Being happy is innate, it comes from within. If it’s not obvious, we must dig deep.

We don’t all feel the same emotions associated with our past experiences, but it’s usually our past experiences that dictate how happy we feel. Two people may lose a loved one and will experience different emotions associated with their loss. Because experiences are based on our past, it’s not always easy to know or fully anticipate how we will feel after any new experience.

It is easy to over-estimate how we feel. It’s also easy to block out our emotions and deny that we have issues and yet we’re still not happy. We convince ourselves and others that we’re happy that there’s nothing wrong with us. I believe that what we unconsciously have yet to deal with, will make a difference between us being happy or sad.

If someone in the family has a predisposition to depression, the odds are we will too, but if we understand why someone has depression, then we can turn things around for ourselves, so we don’t struggle with the same fate. A lot of it’s down to our understanding.

There are predispositions of course that can be avoided, but we must know how to avoid them. But ‘being happy’ is something we all need to work on. It’s never a quick fix. Retail therapy doesn’t work either. There are only so many frocks you can buy.

For myself, as I continue to work on my emotional and spiritual health, I have days where I change how I feel about what I’m dealing with, but even with what I get to deal with and through my beliefs, I am for the most part, happy.


29 Feb, 2012

4 thoughts on “What makes us happy?

  1. I think we all come from different backgrounds and how we re-act to different circumstances is different. What causes stress in one person’s life may not even bother the other person.

    I also think that how we are raised has a lot to do with how we perceive our circumstances. I don’t think the answer to one person’s problems is always the answer to another person’s problems.

    How you handle one situation doesn’t always work for another.

    1. Of course what you say is completely true. As individuals We need to know what works, so that we can concentrate on what makes us happy at the end of the day.

  2. I think Lisa is right; our feelings and how we react to situations and circumstances is very much determined by our experiences.

    Having said that, I also believe that we can change the way we respond and try to respond positively.

    1. This is the key of course. Initially our experiences do shape our world and does become part of our past, but there is no reason why we have to stay living in the past and blaming our behavior on our experiences.

      Anyone can change the way they respond. I am living proof of having achieved it. It can be done.

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