What makes us happy?

This blog is very apt today because it matches my unhappy mood. Do we know how to be happy, or is happiness something we fleetingly come in and out of?

It’s not always easy to say what makes us happy. Some of us will automatically know, it may take others time to find out. It’s innate, happiness comes from within. If it’s not obvious, we need to anticipate our own feelings so that we begin to know what makes us happy. Unfortunately, emotions aren’t an exact science.

We don’t all feel the same emotions associated with our past experiences, but it’s usually our past experiences that dictate how happy we feel. Two people may lose a loved one and may experience different emotions associated with their loss. My belief is that because our experiences are based on our past, it’s not always easy to know or fully anticipate how we will feel after any new given experience.

It is easy to over-estimate how we feel. It’s also easy to block out emotions from our past and deny that we have issues and yet we still expect to be happy. We convince ourselves and others that we are happy and there’s nothing wrong with us. I believe that in reality, what we have had to deal with and are probably still dealing with, will make a difference between us being happy or sad.

If someone in your family has a predisposition to depression, the odds are you will too, but if we understand why someone has depression, then we can turn things around for ourselves, so we don’t struggle with the same fate. A lot of it is down to our understanding.

There are predispositions that can be avoided, we must know how to avoid them. In any event being happy is something that needs working on emotionally. It’s never a quick fix. Retail therapy doesn’t work. There are only so many frocks you can buy.

As I continue to work on my emotional and spiritual health, I have my days where I change how I feel about what I’m dealing with, but I will never change my feelings about being happy with myself.


29 Feb, 2012

4 thoughts on “What makes us happy?

  1. I think we all come from different backgrounds and how we re-act to different circumstances is different. What causes stress in one person’s life may not even bother the other person.

    I also think that how we are raised has a lot to do with how we perceive our circumstances. I don’t think the answer to one person’s problems is always the answer to another person’s problems.

    How you handle one situation doesn’t always work for another.

    1. Of course what you say is completely true. As individuals We need to know what works, so that we can concentrate on what makes us happy at the end of the day.

  2. I think Lisa is right; our feelings and how we react to situations and circumstances is very much determined by our experiences.

    Having said that, I also believe that we can change the way we respond and try to respond positively.

    1. This is the key of course. Initially our experiences do shape our world and does become part of our past, but there is no reason why we have to stay living in the past and blaming our behavior on our experiences.

      Anyone can change the way they respond. I am living proof of having achieved it. It can be done.

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