I grew up in an era where children were ‘seen and not heard.’ Whatever squabbles or aggrievances I had, I was told ‘we were as bad as each other.’ There was no mediation, so my protests went unheard.
It was at a time when parents didn’t seem to care whether their issues became their children’s. But whatever stress our parents are under, their stress shouldn’t be ours. It is important children have their emotional needs met so that they can grow into well-balanced adults.
Although my hospital visits were met, none of my other needs were met. Now when I look back, I still can’t believe this was my life. But no matter what parents deals with, it’s important they deal with their issues, change how they perceive those, so they can continue to build on their relationship with their children.
As parents we must try to be the best parents we can be, so that our children can be the best that they can be when they become parents with their own children. The era we are born into shouldn’t come into it.